Usually, we are spoiled for choice as to which decisions we shall make - more often than not, the more options on offer, the harder we find to choose just one - but there are several exceptions to this trend. For example, you can either choose to find a solution to a problem that is eating more away at you than your appetite for a giant-sized pizza, or sink to the lowest point that you'll ever experience. Bucket loads of misery might steer you towards the latter if you've lost the will to regain control, but even a miniscule spark of hope could save you from even more outbreaks of hysterical sobs. It's that tiny piece of hope that we ought to search for whenever faced with pressing dilemmas, whose effects can either resurrect a shadow of our stronger selves or tip us off the not-so-far edge.
And, I say, that is how you accept - or at least put up with - what life gives you.
As much as almost all of us prefer to believe, the world is brimming with goodness, hope and lights as sparkly as chandeliers, whose gifts we are eager to benefit from. Of course, it is true that plenty of people achieve success in various ways - going up the jobs ladder, passing oh-so-difficult exams and residing in a house more luxurious than Paris Hilton's wardrobe - and we are often surrounded by positivity, yet our heads would have to be buried in sand to forget about the problems that affect not only ourselves, but also many others.
Personally, I like to think about it like this: for every dollop of good, along must come a drop of bad, which makes both sides equal. Without a doubt, we yearn for the balance to steer further towards the good because the bad creates tension and unwanted sadness - both of the slight and extreme kind - but circumstances like these are beyond our control. Long ago, I learnt that it was pointless to dwell on the things that I could neither influence nor completely change, but it wasn't my priority - and, in fact, there are sometimes occasions in which none of us are unable to alter the effects that negativity causes. Instead, our energy mustn't be wasted on the impossible, but on the dilemmas that we can do something about, which may or may not be later transformed into a positive.
Like decent grades and fashion sense to rival that of an A-Lister, we crave positivity and, if I should be entirely upfront about it, we never get enough of it. More wishes are made than the entire world's population, often for both selfish and compassionate reasons. If we get our hands on our desires, happiness is the end result. But don't you realize the problems - or let's say the negatives - about wishing for positivity? For many people, it never satisfies our relentless hunger to experience that fluttery feeling we get whenever positivity is present in our lives. Perhaps I now have the answer that explains why the likes of obesity, alcoholism and countless issues plague many peoples' well-being - when the ultra-strong cravings kick in, would once ever be enough?
Then, on the other end of the scale, there exists a bundle of people who, instead of endlessly seeking more and more positivity, struggle to achieve it. Sometimes, we play tricks on ourselves, believing that literally everything in our lives is wrong and not living up to the standard than we expect. Though we cannot deny the many faults that are found in life itself, something good and pure must be within our reach. However, it's simply easier to focus on the bigger issue at hand - the all-mighty bad stuff - instead of reminding ourselves of the small amount of good that we can claim to be our own, which promises the involvement of a task that requires expanding it into something greater and positive.
Negativity carries many side effects, but the one that I typically find is brain drain which, for those whose minds are seriously caught up in it, is hardly surprising. I achieve a double whammy - mental and physical exhaustion - if a problem is bugging me, a feat that is a mere side issue to the dilemma that I wish to never face. As it is so hard to pull yourself away from the bad stuff and exercise your thoughts into positive ones, exhaustion is even stronger - which is why making that leap from one side to side is a decision that the most affected people struggle to make.
Deep down, negative people want to escape from the hard-going side of life, yet might possess little or no motivation to make that move themselves. Determination is rarely in short supply if you're of a positive nature, whose absence is truly noticeable when dealing with troubling dilemmas. But building up the strength to move away from those feelings is usually the only way that your life will be freed from negativity; after all, baby steps are far better than taking none at all.
At the end of the day, let's not forget about what we do have which, to some people, would be their dream come true. For example, you might be living in a house - what about the hundreds of thousands of homeless people who rest their heads on the pavement as a pillow each night? Yet again, some of us are blessed with a group of trustworthy pals who offer outpourings of love whenever disaster has struck; others might not be so lucky. Negatives can be attached to even the good things that typically make us happy - and the same applies if the roles are switched.
As hard as we make efforts to avoid them, life wouldn't truly be a true reality if problems never cropped up. It's a learning curve for everybody, but it is up to us to determine whether we'll take those lessons on board. Bad situations either turn your heart into steel - shielding it away from future harm - or clutches away at your heartstrings, its effects felt long after you first experienced it. Although we wish to hold onto the innocence that defined our childhood selves for as long as possible, life has other ideas - and toughening up is a ritual that we participate in sooner or later.
All doors leading to progression will be blocked until we embrace putting on a tougher persona, which is otherwise recognized as acceptance. Sure, we have the right to begrudge as much as we wish, yet moving on will be virtually impossible if we fail to do so. From time to time, sacrifices have to be made. If it was me, I'd rather let go of naivety that shielded me as a child than become a weakling in adulthood.
And, lastly, we take steps towards accepting what life gives us. As a teenager, my presents are in the form of bumpy breakouts and horrific hormones - ever such a glorious gift as I enter young adulthood, huh? However much that we grit our teeth as a craving to scream out loud grows stronger and stronger, there is far worse that is being experienced by other people. After all, if life gives you lemons, why not make the most of it by making lemonade? Cherish what you have and use it to your advantage which, if luck offers its blessing, could become what you were truly seeking - positivity.
Sometimes, we make things ourselves, or change them to our liking. Accepting life for what it is will prepare you for whatever is ahead, and hopefully many great things that will come your way if you put your heart into achieving it.
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